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Hello, and welcome to Unleash Your Courage with me, Mary Schiller, of maryschiller.com. I’m so happy to have you with me, and I can’t wait to talk with you all about courage.
Now if you only listen to one message from me, I want it to be this one.
In this first lesson, I am giving you the “Big Kahuna” message, so I want to make sure that you really get the most important piece right up front. I’m not gonna delay it until later. I’m going give it to you right here, right now.
I want to assure you that there isn’t one person on this planet … not one person on this planet has more or less courage than you have. Now pause just for a second and think about what I said: there isn’t anyone on this earth who has more courage than you or less courage than you.
If you want to think of this in terms of confidence, there is no one on this planet that has more confidence than you or less confidence than you.
That’s a pretty bold statement. I realize that that probably flies in the face of everything you may think you know about courage, confidence, about feeling sure of yourself. But I have to tell you the truth, because that’s my job. And the truth is that there isn’t anything you have to do to get more courage, to get more confidence, to get more self belief, because guess what? It is built into who you are as a human being.
You were born with courage. You have all the courage you will ever need, and there is nothing that you have to do to get it. It is yours just by virtue of being human.
Now you may be saying, “Hey, hang on a second, Mary. I don’t feel courageous. I don’t feel confident, and you know, I certainly don’t feel like I was born with it.”
Maybe this is something you’ve struggled with your whole life. Maybe it feels to you like you don’t have the confidence and courage you need to do the things that you want to do. You might look around other people who seem like, you know, they’ve got it made. They take charge of their lives, and they do big things, and they take big steps when you’re like, “Wait a second. I don’t feel comfortable doing that. That takes a lot more confidence than I have, and certainly I couldn’t have been born way because I’ve always felt like this.”
Or maybe there are certain aspects of your life where you just feel a dearth of courage. Maybe you’re feeling confident in some areas of your life but not in others, and you’re saying to me, “Well, how is it true that if I have all this courage and confidence and all that, that I’m feeling it in one area but not another? Don’t we have to do something about that?” And the answer is, you don’t have to do anything about it. I can show you, first of all, with this lesson how courage and confidence and all those feelings that we want to feel when were kind of stepping out into the world are already available to us.
There’s only ever one thing standing in our way. And you know, that’s this: it’s listening to some kind of static-y, spooky, scary thinking in our heads that tells us we don’t have it.
So I’ll give you an example. Many people have a fear of public speaking, and they work really hard to get over this fear of public speaking. They try to summon all their courage. They may think that by doing more public speaking, that that will lessen this feeling of fear. I don’t know if you know this, but several big entertainers, including Barbra Streisand and I think Cher might also be one of them, feel scared and basically paralyzed before they go on stage.
Now, how many times have they gone on stage? If it was true that repetition, taking certain actions, were responsible for making us feel more courageous, making us feel more confident, then people like that wouldn’t have any trouble with it. They would never feel afraid again, right?
Well, here’s what’s actually going on, is before they step out on stage and they feel nervous, and they don’t feel brave at all, they are listening to a bunch of thinking that tells them that this is scary. They’re believing that the act of stepping on stage in front of a crowd is a scary thing to do, when in actuality all they’re really afraid of is some funny thinking they may have. That’s it.
So the only thing that is ever standing in our way, that is blocking us from feeling this courage, is listening to a bunch of thinking that says we’re afraid.
Now, the conventional way to deal with this would be to say, “Well, you have to take those fearful thoughts and turn them around into something courageous. So if you hear fearful thinking, then turn the tables on it and say, ‘I’m not afraid. I’m brave. I’m courageous.'”
But when that is how it’s done, it will fail. And I can tell you that because I tried it over and over and over again.
All you need to do — all you need to do — is simply sit with whatever that feeling is, that one that says I’m not brave, and allow it to pass. It’s thought. It’s designed to change on its own. You can’t change it, and when it passes through, your inborn, natural, infinite well of courage, confidence, bravery — however you want to phrase that — simply rises back up to the surface. And it’s there for you.
There is nothing you have to do to get courage. There is nothing you have to try to defeat within yourself. You don’t have to do anything about fear. You simply have to know that courage is part of your natural self, and the only thing that stops you from experiencing it is thinking. And that thinking can just move on through. Don’t give it any attention; you’re just gonna let it do its thing and move on, and you will access that courage and confidence that you want, anytime you want.
That is the “Big Kahuna” message of Unleash Your Courage. So give this some thought, and I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to email me, Mary@MarySchiller.com, and I’ll see you in the next lesson.
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